Monday, February 13, 2012
But I didn't let him off the hook.
There was no point discussing it. We both knew the name of the elephant in the room. We've been married so long that the words "I'm sorry" are reserved for the really big stuff, so we've both mastered the art of non-verbal apologizing. And we both recognize the other's code for "forgive me."
Of course I granted an immediate reprieve. What else could I do?
Non-verbal cues come in handy in life and in writing. Using dialogue to show an all-out war between a couple can be fun, but using finesse and nuance can be challenging and more effective. What isn't said can blare from a page.
Are you illustrating strong emotions? Look for the less obvious. A passive-aggressive who's ticked off may add too much salt to a stew before setting it before the object of her ire. A woman who simply "doesn't want to talk about it" will go to extremes to change the subject. A man who's on the verge of tears at seeing his daughter in her wedding gown may crack a joke.
You don't have to look farther than your own idiosyncrasies and those of the people you're most familiar with to find examples. Capture these for the page to add depth to the emotions you want to portray.